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By Test User / December 29, 2024

FREE Impacts of Social Exclusion

For the parent whose son just told them he doesn’t

For the parent whose son just told them he doesn’t want to play footy anymore.

- Save this for the day your son says he’s done.

- Send it to a dad still trying to give his kid the sport he loved. Or a mum watching it happen.
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#teenboys #teenageson #footymum #footydad #raisingteens

Screenshot slide 6. Save the rest. Send it to your

Screenshot slide 6. Save the rest. Send it to your teen without saying anything else.

For the parent trying to have the digital footprint talk without sounding like a lecture.

For the teen that needs a reminder

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#teen #parentingteens #raisingteens #teensafety #digitalfootprint

It's 8:32pm. You've just seen it. Or they have ju

It's 8:32pm.

You've just seen it. Or they have just shown you. Or they just told you. Either way, your world just tilted

Panic. Guilt. Anger. That's your love and your terror colliding in real time. Feel it. Don't act from it yet

Here's what helps…

First. Do not react in horror. I know that feels impossible. But the face you make in the next 30 seconds becomes a memory they carry. If they read horror on your face, they stops telling you

Instead. Take one slow breath. Sit down with them. Get closer, not further

Then say something close to this..

"Thank you for showing me. You're not in trouble. I'm not going anywhere."

Then, gently, two questions. Not a list

"Is what you did tonight something we need to get looked at right now?"

"Was tonight about ending your life, or about coping with a feeling?

Then say…Thank you for telling me. You did the right thing.

If the wound needs looking at, you go tonight. GP or ED.

If tonight was about ending their life, you don't leave their side. Ring Kids Helpline together or go to ED

If it's no to both this is where you stop for tonight.

Not "why". Not "how long". Not "promise me you won't again". Each one sounds to them like judgement.

Tomorrow. Not tonight. Tomorrow you say..

"I've been sitting with what you showed me. I want to help you find someone who understands this better than I do. Because I want you to have every kind of help.

Then you make the call. GP first, not psychologist. GP for the safety plan and mental health care plan referral. Whatever they used gets moved out of easy reach. Quietly. Not dramatically.

Two things not to do this week. Don't ask them to promise. Don't check their body without them knowing. Promises become another shame layer. Body checks feel like surveillance

What they need to know.. this doesn't disqualify them from being loved. This is the middle of something they couldn't hold alone anymore

You seeing it is the first time they are not carrying it by themselves

This is general guidance not a substitute for professional support. Every young person is different.

- send to a parent who just found out

- save for the call none of us want to make

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#teenmentalhealth

For the parent whose 17-year-old still doesn’t kno

For the parent whose 17-year-old still doesn’t know what they’re doing next year.

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- save this for the year 12 crunch season

- send it to a parent whose 17-year-old says still figuring it out
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#year12 #teenanxiety #parentingteens #hsc raisingteens

It’s 5:38pm. You saw her flinch at a text. Third

It’s 5:38pm.

You saw her flinch at a text. Third time this month.

She dresses differently now. Same top she felt like herself in. He said it made her look “trashy.” She stopped wearing it. She cancels friends because he’s coming over.

You’ve watched the person she was walk backwards. You can’t unsee it.

Here’s what’s happening to her…

When love comes with control, her brain builds a trauma bond. Same neurochemistry as addiction. Good moments fill a bucket he keeps emptying. Her self-worth is now his to give and take. Leaving would feel like losing herself. This is biology. Not choice

Here’s what you don’t do…

Don’t tell her to leave. Don’t say “I don’t like him.” Don’t message his parents. Don’t ground her from him. Each of those makes her cling harder. If you become the enemy, you become part of his story.

Instead the long game…

Stay connected. Boringly. Every day. Tea on the couch. Movie nights she doesn’t have to earn. She has to have somewhere to land.

Name what you see. Once. Then not again for weeks…

“I’ve noticed you seem smaller when you’re with him. I don’t quite know how to say it. I just wanted you to know I see it.”

Stop. Let it sit

Keep her identity alive outside him. Book the pottery class. Say yes to the sleepover. Any 48 hours out of his orbit. Every hour of her separate self is an hour her nervous system remembers who she was.

If you see hitting, tracking, or fear, call the DV support line first. They’ll tell you if it’s a safety plan or a police call. Don’t guess alone.

Teens leave in their own time. What they say later is the same thing. The reason they were able to leave was someone at home kept the door open.

You are the door.

- Send this to a parent watching their daughter shrink.

- Save this for the week you can’t unsee it.

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Search “domestic violence support” + your country. In Australia: 1800RESPECT. US: National DV Hotline. UK: Refuge.
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#teenagegirls #coercivecontrol #teenrelationships #raisingteens #teenmentalhealth

For the parent whose son just cried in front of hi

For the parent whose son just cried in front of his mates for the first time 🫶🏽

- Save this for the first time it happens.

-Send it to a dad still holding tears from 30 years ago.
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#teenboys #teenageson #teenmentalhealth #raisingteens #boymum

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